Divorce is a difficult experience that affects not only spouses, but above all children. Many fathers, after separating from their partner, feel lost and unsure of their role in the child’s life. Remember, however, that divorce does not end your fatherhood. You are still a dad and you have the right and duty to participate in your child’s life.
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Parents’ divorce and the child’s welfare
Parents’ divorce is a huge change for a child, which generates stress and a sense of uncertainty. The toddler may feel confused, sad, and even blame himself for the parents’ separation. That is why it is so important for both of you, despite the breakup, to provide him with a sense of security and love.
Please note that:
- A child needs both parents. Even if you no longer live together, your role in your child’s life is irreplaceable.
- Keep in touch positively. Try to avoid conflicts with your ex-partner in the presence of your child.
- Support each other in upbringing. Remember that you have a common goal – the well-being of the child.
How often should you see a child after a divorce?
The frequency of contact with the child after divorce depends on many factors, such as the child’s age, your time possibilities and mutual relationships. The most important thing is that these contacts are regular and predictable for the child.
There are different models of custody after divorce:
- Alternating custody: the child spends equal time with each parent.
- Custody of one parent with access rights of the other: the child lives permanently with one parent and the other has the right to regular visits.
The manner of exercising custody is determined by the court, taking into account, first of all, the best interests of the child.
How to build a long-distance relationship with a child?
Nowadays, more and more families live apart. If you and your child live far apart, take advantage of modern technology to keep in close contact.
- Regular phone and video calls will keep you up to date with your child’s life.
- Send each other letters, cards and photos. It’s a nice way to show affection and share important events.
- Spend holidays together. Plan trips and attractions together.
How to deal with difficult emotions after divorce?
Divorce is a difficult experience that evokes many strong emotions: sadness, grief, anger, and even guilt. Remember that you have the right to these feelings. However, it is important that you know how to deal with them so that they do not negatively affect your relationship with your child.
- Give yourself time to grieve. Don’t expect to feel better right away.
- Talk to someone close to you. Sharing your emotions with a friend, family member, or therapist can provide relief.
- Take care of yourself. A healthy lifestyle, physical activity and relaxation will help you regain your mental balance.
Support for fathers after divorce
Remember that you are not alone. Many fathers experience similar difficulties after a divorce. Seek support from loved ones, as well as dad support organizations and groups.
Here are some places where you can find help:
- Association for the Defense of Father’s Rights
- The “Dad has the right” Foundation
- Support groups for divorced fathers (available online and in-person)
Tips for fathers:
- Be patient. Building a relationship with a child after a divorce takes time and effort.
- Listen to your child. Allow him to express his emotions and needs.
- Be present in the child’s life. Get involved in his daily affairs, participate in important events.
- Create a sense of security for your child. Let them know that they can always count on you.
- Be consistent in your actions. A child needs clear rules and boundaries.
- Remember that you are important to your child. Even if you don’t live together, your love and support are priceless to him.
